七選五

IfYou'veGotanInterview,GetYourEtiquette（禮儀）Right

INTERVIEWINGforajobislikegoingbattle.Youneedtobeprepared.Justbeingpolite

maynotbeenough.]Here,21stCenturyidentifiesthetrapsandshowsyouhowtodeal

withthem.

2Eventhoughyourinterviewershouldalreadyhaveone,theymaystillaskforacopy

totestyourpreparedness.

Avoidarrivingtooearly.Ofcourse,it'snotgoodtobelate,butifyouarrivetooearlyyou

couldgivetheimpressionthatyoucannotfollowdirections.Also,yourearlyarrivalcouldupset

theinteniewer'sschedule,ifheorshestillhasthingstoaccomplishbeforemeetingwithyou.

3.Youcanspendtimeinacafeorashoppingmallifyourtaxiorbusgetsyoutheretoo

early.

Holdyourtongueinthewaitingroom.4Doingsocouldcauseyoutolosefocus.Also,

rememberthatyourbehaviourandconversationmaybemonitoredbyofficestaff.So,ifanother

intervieweetriestotalkwithyou,smileandaskforafewminutestoyourself.

Whenyouacceptacupofwaterortea,becareful（hatyoudonotspillit-onyourselforthe

floor.5Otherwise,youcouldaccidentallyspillthedrinkandcauseyourselftofeel

embarrassed.

And,finally,afteryougetbackhome,it'simportanttotaketimetowriteashortletteror

e-mailexpressingthanks.Keepitbrief.Donotaskabouttheinterviewer'simpressionofyou,or

aboutyourchancesofgettinghired.Thismightmakeyousoundlikeapushy（有企圖心的）

person!

A.Beingontimeisalwaysacceptable.

B.Alwaysbringanextracopyofyourresumewithyou

C.You'dbetternotshareyouropinionwithyourcandidates.

D.It'sOKtotakeafewsips(小口喝),butsetitasideifyouarenotthirsty.

E.Avoidchattingwithotherinterviewees,evenifyouarefriends.

F.It'sbesttoarrive10or15minutesbeforetheinteniewisscheduledtobegin.

G.Afewminormistakesinetiquettecanupsetyourchancesofmakingagoodimpression.

MynameisAllison,anAmericanboy.Duringmysophomoreyearofhighschool,I

participatedinanexchangeprogramwhereaSpanishstudentcametoliveinmyhomeforafew

weeksandthenIwenttoliveinherhouseinSpain.6

Aftertheinitialexcitementofbeinginanewplaceworeoff,someof(heculturaldifferences

begantoaffectme,causingmetofeelanxiousandhomesick.7MySpanishskillswere

notatthelevelofbeingabletoexpresshowIfeltclearly.

8Iusuallyatedinnerat6:00pinathome,butinSpain,wealeitat10:00pmwhen

Iwasveryhungryandreadyforbed!Iwasapickycater,andwhileIatemeat,1stillwastVtvery

adventurouswithit.ButtherewasalotofmeatinSpanishcuisine.Almosteverymealwasfilled

withrichunidentifiablefoods.

Onenight,Iaskedwhatwcweregoingtocat.SinceIdidn'tknowtheSpanishword4tconcjo

(heyused,(heentirefamilystartedactinglikerabbitsalthedinnertableinaneffort(ohelpms

understanditsmeaning.9SometimesIjustwantedtocurlupinmyroomaloneand

orderapizza,butnot(hepizzatheyhadinSpain.

SomeofthenewandunusualfoodsIfirsthadinSpaincausedmemuchstress.10

Thistriptaughtmehowtobeflexibleandleavemycomfortzone,andhowimportantitisto:ry

newthings.

A.Iwasshockedalwhy(heydidso.

B.Bothofusliketheprogramverymuch.

C.ButImissedthemverymuchwhenIleftSpain.

D.AndIthoughtIwouldneversetfootonthelandanymore.

E.ThemostdifficultchallengeIfacedwasthefoodandmealtime.

F.Iwasalittlenervousbutmostlyexcitedaboutthecomingexperience.

G.Whatmadecultureshockdifficulttodealwithwasthelanguagebarrier.

Peoplespendtoomuchtimeandefforttryingtocontrolanxietythesedays.Herearesome

thingsyoucandotohelpminimizeanxiety'snegativeeffects.

」LIfyoutreatanxietyaspartoflifeandpartofeveryone'slivingexperience,you

canlearntorelateitwithself-compassionandevenwithhumor.Thisisacornerstoneof

acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy(ACT),whichhasbeengainingclinicalvalidation.

ACTguidespeopletoseetheirunpleasantemotionsasjustfeelingsandacceptthatpartsof

lifearehard.Doctorsencouragepatientstobeginadialoguewithanxiousthoughts.12

Meanwhile,theyalsokeepinmindpatients'personalgoalsandvalues.Althoughanxiousthoughts

shouldn'tbecompletelycontrolled,suffererscanbetrainednottoallowanxietytoturnthemaway

fromwhattheywanttodoandwhotheywanttobe.

Makelifestyleadjustments.13Thisrequirestrialanderrortogetjustright.While

acceptanceisthefirstandmostimportantstep,somelifestylechangeshavebeenprovedtotake

theedgeoffaswell.

Workoutregularly.Whentirednessandstressleaveyoumoreexposedtoanxiety,a

well-balanceddietandadequateres(arehelpful.14Oneresearchstudyshowsthat

regularvigorousworkoutsreducethelikelihoodofdevelopingananxietydisorderoverthenext

fiveyearsby25percent.

Asaspecialist,Arthuralsosharesherexperiencesonthewebsite,openlydiscussingher

anxietyhastransformedherrelationshipwithit.'Tmlearningtoliveinharmony,asmuchas

possible,withthisthingthatispartofme,“shesays."It'snotalwayspleasant,butIacceptit.

15

A.Acceptit.

B.Developasenseofhumor.

C.Imaybemoreanxiousinthefuture.

D.Tosomeextent,Icantakecareofmyanxiety.

E.Aboveall,exercisecanhelpyoumanageitbetter.

F.Learningtolivewithanxietyisanindividualprocess.

G.Theywanttoexaminethecausesofpatients5feelings.

Emptynestsyndromereferstothefeelingsoflonelinessandgriefthatparentsexperience

whenchildrenleavehomeforcollege,workorjusttoliveontheirown.Itcanbeadifficult

experienceforaparent.16

Prepareforthetransition

Manyparentsareshockedthat17or18yearscanpassbysoquickly,andoftenfeellostwhen

they'refacedwiththeirchildrenleavingthenestforgood.Soit'snecessaryforyoutostart

preparingforthistransitionasearlyaspossible.17Theymayincludefamilyvacations,

longtalks,andtakinglimeofffromworktomakespecialmemories.

Rediscoveryourself

Cultivateahobbyyouloveandgetinvolvedinmeaningfulwork.18Whatdidyou

havetosacrificewhenyoudevotedallyourenergiestoparenting?Reawakenthatpartofyourlife.

Youcanmakethebestoftheopportunitiesthistransitionbringstoenrichyourlife.

Reconnectwithyourspouseandfriends

Yourprimaryfocusmayhavebeenparentingformanyyears,butwhenyourchildrenleave

thehome,youhaveanopportunitytoreconnectwithyourspouseandbecomemoreinvolvedin

eachother'slivesagain.19Forsingleparents,thiswillbeagreattimetoreachout(o

friends,connectwithyourcommunity,getinvolvedinlocalclubs,tiyabookcluborvolunteer.

20

Intoday'sworld,itcanbemucheasiertostayintouchwithyourchildrenmoreregularly

throughtechnology.Youcantalktothemonthephone,textthemandscheduleregularSkype

sessions.

Itsalsoimportanttorememberthatthehappinessyouseekiswithinyourself.Consideryour

emptynestasanopportunitytorediscoverandreconnectwithyourself,yourpartnerandyour

community.

A.Makeuseoftechnology.

B.Schedulearegularphonecall.

C.Howdidyougetinvolvedinemptynestsyndrome?

D.Whatdidyouliketodobeforeyoubecameamotherorfather?

E.Itisanewopportunitytoimprovethequalityofyourmarriage.

F.Hereareseveralwaystohelpyoulovethenextchapter,insteadoffearingit.

G.Youcanmakeplanswiththefamilywheneveryoneisstillunderthesameroof.

Theevidenceshowsthatbeinglonelyisbadforyourphysicalandmentalhealth.Butwith

supportfromgroupsandspecialists—andeventheInternet—youneedn'tdealwithitonyour

own.

Recognizetheimpactofloneliness

Itisclearthatlonelinesshasbecomesuchapressingpublichealthconcern.21Itis

alsoassociatedwithincreasedriskofheartdisease,strokeandbloodpressure,aswellasdementia

（癡呆）.

Workoutexactlywhyyouarelonely

TheMentalHealthCharityMindmentionstwomainfactorsthatcancauseloneliness:

someoneeithernothavingenoughbasicsocialcontactor,despitebeingsurroundedbypeople,not

feelingunderstood,listenedtoorcaredfor.22Itcouldgiveyouabetterideaofhowtov/ork

throughyourfeelingsofloneliness.

23

Talkingtofriendsandfamilyisanobviousandeasypathtohandlingloneliness,butifyou

feelyoulackit,joiningacluborsocializingthroughhobbiesorinterestsisagoodwaytomeet

newpeopleandincreasesocialinteractions.

Getonline

Spendingtimeonlineobviouslycannotreplaceallyourreal-lifeinteractions,butitcanhelp.

TheNHSrecommends（imeonlinetoolderpeopleexperiencingloneliness.Thismightnotbethe

gloriouspanacea（靈丹妙藥）itimmediatelyseems,however,morethanonestudyhasfounda

linkbetweenlonelinessandtimespentonline.24

Increasemeaningfulsocialcontact

h'sallverywelljoiningTwitterorvolunteeringalyourlocalcharityshop.25Onestudy

in2011foundthatelderlypeoplewhospenttimewithfamilywerelesslonelythanthoseattending

socialgroupswithstrangers.Itistheperfectexcusetocallyourmum.

A.Meetnewpeople

B.Speaktosomeone

C.Andlearningtochangeyourthinkingmatters.

D.Soitisimportanttoaddonlinechatstomeetups.

E.Itsuggestsfiguringoutwhichfactorfitsyoubest.

F.Lonelinesscanbeasdamagingassmoking15cigarettesaday.

G.Butsonicresearchsuggeststhatwhoyouspendyourtimewithmatters,too.

Asthesayinggoes:TheInternetisforever.Onceyou'veputsomethingonline—acredit

cardnumber,asillyphotooraheat-of-the-momentcommentonsocialmedia—itcancomeback

todisturbyou.26Herearethreesmartstepstohelpyou.

?Mixupyourpasswords.

Ifyoualwaysusethesamepassword,nomatterhowcarefullydesigneditmaybe,it's

probablyalreadyoutthere.Criminalspurchaseleakeddatabasesofusernamesandpasswordson

darkwebmarketplaces.Thentheytrythesecombinations,hopingtoaccesspeople'sother

accounts.27

?Deleteoldaccounts.

Youprobablyhavealotofonlineaccountsyounolongeruse,andtheymightcontain

personalinformation.Don'tleavewhateverdetailsyoumayhavesharedsittingaroundsothey

canbediscoveredormisusedbycriminals.Tolearnhowtodeleteanaccount,performaweb

searchsuchas“deleleolde-mailaccount.^^28Orgorightto(hecompany,checkits

onlinesupportpagesandaskforaccountdeletion.

?29

Ybumaywanttorestrictwhocanseewhalyoupostonsocialmediasites.Forexample,on

Facebookyoucanlimitwhocanfindyouandwhocanseewhatyoupost.Togelstarted,gotothe

Facebookhomepageandclickthedownarrowinthetoprightcomer,thenselectSettings&

Privacy.

30Youcanstandupforyourprivacyandtakecontrolbyapplyingthesteps

mentionedabove.

A.Limitwhohasyourlocationhistory.

B.Controlsocialmediaprivacysettings.

C.Souseastrong,uniquepasswordforeveryaccount.

D.Withthepotentialriskseverywhere,howcanyoukeepyourselfsafe?

E.DespitethedisadvantagestheInternetmaybring,you'renotpowerless.

F.Youprobablydon5tremembereveryonlineaccountyou'veevercreated.

G.YoucanalsovisitJtohelpdeletedifferenttypesofaccounts.

LighthousePlanning

Goalsettingisanimportantpartofstayingactive,focusedandexcitedaboutthe

future.31

Somegoalsinourlifeareclear,simpleandeasy.Forexample,tomakeahomemadedinner

everySundayissuchatypeofgoalforme.Toachieveit,Ionlyneedtocreatealistofsupplies(o

buyandsetasidetimeinmyschedule.

32Intermsofthesegoals,1lovetheideaof^lighthouseplanning''.Inthis

technique,wcreachagoalbyimaginingitasalighthouseinthedistance.It'sdarkaswcgetin

ourboatsandwcdon'tknowexactlyhowwc'rcgoingtogettothatbrightdestination.Butour

lighthouseneverstopsflashinginthedistanceanditisneverentirelyoutofsight.33

Nowthinkaboutyourlighthouseandidentifyit.34Forexample,youmightset

yourgoalas“Iwanttobecomemorecreative''.Identifyingyourlighthouseisawaytostartyour

journeywithbigpurposes.

Butifyoulookaroundandrealizethatyourlighthouseisgettingfartherawayratherthan

closer,youshouldredirectyourpathtoyourlighthouse35Ifyou'veeverrowedaboat,

youknowtherecanbeheadwindsandstormsalongyourjourney.Inthatcase,focusonthenext

spotonthehorizoninsteadofpoweringthroughallthewaytotheend.

A.Justgiveitatry.

B.Don'twearyourselfout.

C.Wecanmakeaplanthatwillgetusthere.

D.Alighthouse-likegoalissomethingbroader.

E.Sowestartrowinginthedirectionofthelight.

F.However,somegoalsinourlifearebigger,andmorechallenging.

G.Havinggoalsandkeepingmovingtothemarepartofwalkingapositivepath.

Travellingwithfriendscanbeanamazingexperiencewhereyoucouklmakelifelong

memoriesoritcouldruinyourfriendship.36Herearesomerulesyoushouldfollowto

makesureyournexttripwithfriendsgoesassmoothlyaspossible.

37Sure,youandyourfriendsprobablyhavesomesimilarinterests,butthat'snot

alwaysthecase.Inanefforttokeepeveryonehappy,goovertravelplansandexpectationsahead

oftime.Haveeachpersoncategorizeactivitiesorsightsinto“rnust-see”"wanttosee"and"would

goifwehavetime”.Planaccordinglyandmakesureeveryonecanseesomeoftheirtop

attractions.

Communicateandrespecteachother.Everyonehaspersonalpreferenceswhentravelling—

fromgettingthebedclosesttothebathroomorsittingintheairplane'swindowseat.But

sometimesthingsdon'tgoasyoulike.Inthiscase,shareyourrequirementsdirectlywithyour

travelcompanions.38Haveaconversationwhenproblemsarise,forcommunicationis

thekey.

Don'tdisappear.Whentravellingwithagroup-orevenjustoneotherperson—youmay

wantsomealonetime.That'scompletelyfine,butmakesureyourfriendsknowwhereyouareand

haveawayofcontactingyou.39

Getoffyourphone.Ofcourse,yourfriendswillunderstandifyouneedtotakeacallfroma

familymember,orintheeventofaworkemergency,butotherthanthat,trytostayoffyourphone.

4()Afterall,theappealofthistypeoftripistospendtimewithfriends.Justenjoyit!

A.Giveeachothersomespace.

B.Includeatleastoneactivityforeveryone.

C.Soit'simportanttomakesureyouandyourfriend(s)areonthesamepage.

D.Atthesametime,listentotheirconcernsandberespectfulofthem.

E.Don'trespondtolessimportantworkcontactorsendmessagesfrequently.

F.It'sespeciallytrueoftravellinginforeigncountriesorunfamiliarplaces.

G.Andrememberthatconsiderationandrespectgoalongway.

Theworldhasspentalonglimelivingwiththepandemic.Butmanypeoplehavebecome

lazyaboutprotectingtheirsafety.Areyouspendinglimeindoorsandunmaskedwithtrusted

friends?Oreatinginrestaurantsormakingmoretripstothegrocerystore?Newtypesof

COVID-19meanyoushouldtrytocutbackonexposure.Andwhereyoucan,doubledownon

basicsafety.41..

Wearmasks

TheN95maskisthegoldstandard.Itmaycosttoomuchorbehardtofind.Aclothmask

docsagoodjoboffilteringparticlesthatcauseinfection.42—twoclothlayerswitha

filterinthemiddle.Doublemaskingisthebestanswerwhenyoufindyourselfaroundstrangers.

TheKF94maskisagoodbet.

43

Ifyougotothestoretwoorthreetimesaweek,cutbacktoonceaweek.Ifyouhavebeen

spending30to45minutesinthegrocerystore,cutdownyourtimeinthestore.44.If

youarewaitinginline,bemindfulofstayingatleastsixfeetapartfromthepeopleaheadand

behindyou.Tryusingdeliveryservicesorcurbsidepickup.

Spendlesstimeindoorswithpeoplewhoarenotfromyourhousehold.Ifyoumustspend

timewithothers,wearyourbestmask.Besureanyspaceiswellventilated(通風)(opcnwindows

anddoors).Keepthevisitasshortaspossible.45

Thecoronavimsvaccinemayormaynotbethesolution.Asofnow,youarcthebestanswer.

Takecare.Donotletyourguarddown!

A.Washyourhandsfrequently

B.Spendlesstimewithothers

C.Thebestmaskhasthreelayers

D.Don'tstayoutdoorsalonefbralongtime

E.Ifthemarketiscrowded,conicbacklater

F.Itisstillbesttominimizeyoursocialactivities

G.Herearetwoimportantideasabouthowtostaysafe

Muchmeaningcanbeconveyedclearlywithoureyes,soitisoftensaidthateyescanspsak.

46Inabusyoumaylookatastranger,butnotfortoolong.Andifhesensedthat

youarestaringathim.hemayfeeluncomfortable.

Thesameistrueinourdailylife.Ifyouarestaredatformorethannecessary,youwilllook

atyourselfupanddowntoseeifthereisanythingwrongwithyou.47Eyesdospeak,

right?

Lookingtoolongatsomeonemayseemtoberudeandaggressive.48Ifaman

staresatawomanformorethan1()secondsandrefusestolookawayfromher,hisintentionsare

obvious.Hewishes(oattractherattentionandletherknowthatheisadmiringher.

However,whentwopersonsarcengagedinaconversation,thespeakerwillonlylookinto

thelistener'seyesfromtimetotimetomakesurethatthelistenerdocspayattentiontowhatthe

formerisspeaking.49Ifaspeakerlooksatyoucontinuouslywhenspeakingasifhe

tryingtocontrolyou,youwillfeelawkward.Apoorliarusuallyexposeshimselfbylookingtoo

longatthevictim.Hewronglybelievesthatlookingstraightintheeyeisasignofhonest

communication.50

Actually,eyecontactshouldbemadebasedonspecificrelationshipandsituation.

A.Onthecontrary,itwillgivehimaway.

B.Doyouhavesuchakindofexperience?

C.That'swhatnormaleyecontactisallabout.

D.Actually,continuouseyecontactislimitedtoloversonly.

E.Afterall,everybodylikestobestaredatforquitealongtime.

F.Butthingsaredifferentwhenitcomestostaringattheoppositesex.

G.Ifnothinggoeswrong,youwillfeelannoyedatbeingstaredatthatway.

Conimunicationisessentialforpeopletoshareinfbrnia:ion,formrelationshipsand

strengthenthoserelationships.However,ineffectivecommunicationcanleadtoconilicls.

Communicationbarrierscanpreventtwopeoplefrommakingtheirpointsunderstandabletoeach

other.51Luckily,thisarticlewillofferyouaninsightintobarriersofcommunication

andhowtoovercomethem.

CulturalDiversity

Peoplebelongtodifferentculturesandthiscancauseculturalclashes。中突)veryeasily.Itis

importanttobeverycarefulandtalkwithouthurtingtheirbeliefsaboutculture.52

Perceptual（感知的）Contrast

Theperceptualcommunicationbarrieroccurswhenyousaysomethinginacasualorflat

tone（語ill）.Peoplewithwhomyouarehavingaconversationmightthinkthatyouarenotserious

orinterestedinthetopicthatyouaretalkingabout.Asaresult,theynolongerlistentoyou

attentively.

53Thispositivelyimpactshowotherswillperceiveyourconversation.Makeyour

conversationmeaningfulandbeneficial.Youmustalsouseeyecontactnowandthen.Show

properinterestinwhattheyarcsaying.Smilesincerelyandhaveaconstructiveconversation.

LanguageBarrier

54Ifyouusebigwordsorwrongwordsduringaconversation,itusuallygets

difficultfortheotherpersontounderstandyou.Whatyoumightthinkiseasyforyouto

understandmaynotbeeasyforothers.

Thus,itisimportanttousesimplewordsandeasygrammar.Don'tusefancywordsasthis

willonlyleadtomisunderstandings.55Thiswayyouwillbeabletocommunicate

efficiently.

A.Learnaboutdifferentlanguages.

B.Itisimportanttohaveapositivetoneandbodylanguage.

C.Makesuretostateyourpointandsayonlywhat'srequired.

D.Thiscancausemisunderstandingsandevendamagerelations.

E.Anothercommoncommunicationbarrieristhelanguagebarrier.

F.Differentpeopleholddifferentattitudestowardthelanguagebarrier.

G.Instead,explainthingsmoresimplyratherthanmakingthemcomplex.

Feelingembarrassedissomethingthatnoonereallylikes.Ifyoureworriedabout

embarrassingsituationsandyouhavetroubledealingwithfeelingsofembarrassment,takealook

atthefollowingtipstomakethingsbetter.

?57

Whenlearningtodealwithembarrassment,thefirstbigthingthatwillhelpyouistorealize

thatembarrassingmomentsareinthepast.Thesethingshavealreadyoccurredandthereis

nothingthatyoucandotochangethem.Itmighthavebeentoughtogetthroughthosemoments,

butyou'reherenowandeverythingisokay.

?Talktosomeoneabouthowyou'refeeling.

Ifyou'restrugglingwithfeelingsofembarrassment,thenyoushouldtrytotalktopeoplethat

youtrust.58Yoirillikelyfindthatthesepeoplewillputthingsintoperspectiveand

you'llfeelmuchbetter.

?59

Embarrassmentmightfeeltoughtogetover.However,normalembarrassingmomentsmight

becomethingsthatyoucanjustshrugoffandlaughateventually.Whenyouthinkaboutthings

fromtherightperspective,youmightbeabletolaughatyourselfformakingasillymistakeor

fallingdown.

?Getoutthereandtryagain.

Thefearofembarrassmentshouldnotholdyoubackfromgettingout(hereto(ryagain.If

youwanttomovepastembarrassmentforgood,thenthebestwaytodothatisnottoletitstop

youfromlivingyourlife.Tniscouldmeandoingthesamethingthatembarrassedyouinthepast.

Youmightbeworriedaboutrelivingembarrassingmomentsfromthepast,butitdoesn'thaveto

bethisway.60

A.Learntolaughatthesituation.

B.Understandthatembarrassnientsareinthepast.

C.Don'tworrysomuchaboutthingsandbereadytogooutthereandgiveityourall.

D.Knowthatyoudon'tneedtoapologizetorfeelingembarrassed.

E.Ofcourse,thismightdependonthelevelofembarrassmentthatyouexperienced.

F.Tellthemhowyou'refeelingandwhathappenedifyou'recomfortabledoingthat.

G.It'sgenerallysomethingthatmostpeoplewanttoavoid.

Positiveemotionsdon'tjustfeelgood—they'regoodforyou.Researchshowsthatpeople

feelanddotheirbestwhentheyexperienceatleastthreetimesasmanypositiveemotionsas

negativeones.Herearcsonicwaystoincreasepositiveemotionsineverydaylife.

61Makealist.Addnewemotionsasyounoticethem.Youalsocanlookoveryour

listofemotionsattheendofthedayandwritedownwhenyoufeltdifferentpositiveemotions.

Didyoufeelproudafterplayingwellonthesoccerfield?62Trackingthesepositive

emotionshelpsusbemoreawareofthepositivefeelingswealreadyexperience,andthesituations

oractivitiesthatbringthem.

Identifyapositiveemotionyouwanttoincrease.63Thinkofsituationsoractivities

you'veexperiencedthatmadeyouawareofyourjoy.Writedownasmanyasyoucan.Focuson

small,simplethings,likeasongthatmakesyoufeeljoyfulwheneveryouhearit.Anytimeyou

noticeyou'rcfeelingjoyfiil,consideraddingthatsituationoractivitytoyourlist.

Sometimesweforgetthewayback(ofeelingpositive.Wemightneedareminderthatcan

leadusbacktoahappieremotionalplace.64Apositivityboxisacollectionof

remindersofpositiveexperienceswe'vehad.Theseremindersbringbackthefeelingsassociated

withthegoodmomentsinourlives,ourstrengths,joysandaccomplishments,thefimwe'vehad,

thebooksormusicthathavemeaningforus,thepeoplewhoarcimportanttous.65

A.It'sapositivity"treasurechest”.

B.Let'ssayyouwanttofeelmorejoy.

C.Happytoseeafilmwithyourbestfriend?

D.That'swhenapositivityboxisreallyhelpful.

E.Happywhenyourfriendsrememberedyourbirthday?

F.Collectthingsthatremindyouofpositiveemotionalmoments.

G.Namethepositiveemotionsyou'veexperiencedinyourdailylife.

LifelongFriends

Thekeystomaintainingstrong,long-termfriendshipsoftentakealifetimetolearn.Weasked

someofthelongest-lastingfriendshowthey'vemanagedtomaketheirbondsunbreakable.

?Honestyisalwaysthebestpolicy

HeatherHopkinscreditsherdecades-longbestfriendshiptoherdevotiontohonesty.

4466Atruefriendwillalwaysappreciatehonesty,eveninthemessiestsituations.Ifyour

realfriendscan*tbehonestandtruthful,doyouthinktheacquaintancesinyourlift;willbe?”

?67

“It'ssaidthattechnologyisruiningrelationships,buttherearefewthingsasniceasbeing

connectedwithyourbestfriendssinceprimaryschoolbyanongoinggroup,“saysLaurenGamsey.

“Wearesevenbusyworkingparentsspreadacrosssevencities,andwecanstillshareeveryday

thoughts,bignewsandsillystoriesasifwchadnevermovedawayfromeachother/'

?Berealisticandkeepitcasual

“MyfourbestfriendsfromchildhoodandIareallmarriedwithkids.Restaurantgatherings

oncewchadkidswerealwaysadisaster/'tellsStaceyFcintuch."68.Nowwceachhost

amealatourhomethroughouttheyear.Itmaybeabrunchorapizzadinner.Thehosthelps

organisethelongemailchaintochooseadateanddoesfoodpreparation.Butweallbring

somethingtohelpeasetheburden.69

?Don*tbeafraidtoputintheworksoyoucanrelaxandletthegoodtimesroll

70.That'ssomethingGoldsteinLettieknowssowellofher30-plus-yearfriendship.

“Friendshiptakesworkandplanning.OurfavouritetraditionisthateveryNewYear'sEvesince

1998wegetthefamiliestogether.Wecookabigfancymealandstayuphalfthenightplaying

karaokeorsomeothersillygames.Wealwayshaveafamilysleepoverandeachyearit'sata

differenthouse.n

A.Usetechnologytoyouradvantage

B.Sowedecidedtoswitchthingsup

C.Goodfriendsshouldhavealotincommon

D.Keepcalling,evenifthere'snothingtoreallysay

E.Itensuresthatwegettogetheratleastfourtimesayea