1、Human RelationsHuman Relationsand Interpersonal Skillsand Interpersonal SkillsUnit 1 Unit 1 Warm-up Listening and Speaking Viewing and SpeakingCONTENTS Project1Warm-upWarm-up1 Work in groups to make a list of various kinds of interpersonal relationships in our lives. Then choose a word in the follow

2、ing box to describe the relationships. You may use your own word if its not included. journey garden seed nutrient fruit tree filmshow dance song dream party game weatherwind sunshine star fire spice book dictionarysmartphone chemical paint piano keyWarm-upReference answers- My relationship with my

3、boyfriend is like a journey. It has twists and turns, ups and downs. Sometimes the road is smooth, sometimes it is rough, and sometimes there are even accidents on the road. But we have made it here all the way and I believe it has been a worthy journey.- My relationship with my friends is like a bo

4、ok. It takes a long time to write, but only a minute to tear up.Warm-up2 Work in pairs on the following activities.Student A turns to Page 123. Student B turns to Page 124.Student A describes Picture A to Student B, and the latter draws the picture without asking any questions. Student A does not co

5、rrect Student B even if he / she makes mistakes.Student B describes Picture B to Student A and Student A draws the picture. There will be constant communication between you to make the drawing match the original picture as much as possible.Step 1Step 2Step 3Warm-up2 Work in pairs on the following ac

6、tivities.Discuss with your partner about the processes of drawing. Which way of communication, one-way for Picture A, or two-way for Picture B, is more effective? Do you think this is the same to our interpersonal relationships?Step 42 Listening and SpeakingTopic One How to apologize1 Sometimes, we

7、do things that require an apology. But oftentimes it is not easy to open the mouth. Now you are going to hear some advice on how to apologize from an etiquette expert. Listen to a talk and note down the seven steps of apologizing.Listening and SpeakingHow to apologizeListening and understandingRefer

8、ence answersStep 1: Prepare. Step 2: Approach.Step 3: Lower your voice. Step 4: Make eye contact.Step 5: Give the apology. Step 6: Take the wrap.Step 7: Finish on a positive.How to apologizeListening and understandingListening and Speaking2 Listen to the talk again and fill in the blanks with the ph

9、rases and expressions you hear. Then work in pairs and explain them in the context of the talk.How to apologizeListening and understandingListening and Speaking1 We all do things that require an apology from time to time. But _ _ is a skill in itself.2 How could you _ for what youve done?3 Ask if yo

10、u could _ with the person, and then take them to one side.4 Lower your voice. You should not be _.5 If you look away at the key moments, or refuse to meet their gaze at all, they may think you are _.eating humble piemake amendshave a wordlooking for an argumentholding something back2 Listen to the t

11、alk again and fill in the blanks with the phrases and expressions you hear. Then work in pairs and explain them in the context of the talk.How to apologizeListening and understandingListening and Speaking6 Is there anything I can do to _ you?7 The other person may still be angry with you. And in ord

12、er to_, they might need to communicate this. If so, you need to _.8 OK, so can we just put it behind us and _, yeah?9 Dont let the conversation linger as this could provide an opportunity for _.make it up toclear the airface the musicmove onold wounds to resurfaceReference answers1 eating humble pie

13、 (eat humble pie: admit that you were wrong, especially in an embarrassing situation)2 make amends (try to make a situation better after you have done sth. wrong)3 have a word (have a short conversation or discussion, usually without other people listening)4 looking for an argument (look for an argu

14、ment: behave in a way that looks like you expect to argue with sb.)5 holding something back (hold sth. back: keep sth. secret)How to apologizeListening and understandingListening and SpeakingReference answers6 make it up to (make it up to sb.: do sth. good for sb. you have upset, in order to become

15、friends with them again)7 clear the air (discuss a problem or difficult situation with sb. in order to make it better); face the music (accept criticism or punishment for sth. you have done wrong)8 move on (finish or stop one activity and start doing sth. different)9 old wounds to resurface (old wou

16、nds resurface: sb. remembers an unpleasant event or situation that happened in the past)How to apologizeListening and understandingListening and Speaking3 When you broke a promise, or were misunderstood by your friend, an apology is in order. Work in pairs and role-play the following situations. Rem

17、ember to include as many of the seven steps of apologizing as possible. How to apologizeThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingUseful expressions for making and accepting an apology:Making an apologyAccepting an apology Im so / awfully / terribly sorry about

18、that. I apologize. My apologies. Thats all right. Thats OK. Never mind. I owe you an apology. I hope you will forgive me. Its all my fault. I really feel bad about it. I honestly didnt mean it. I wish I could take it back. Its not your fault. It really doesnt matter at all. Dont worry about it. Thin

19、k no more of it. No problem. We all make mistakes.Listening and SpeakingSituation 1:You said you would bring your laptop to class for the group presentation, but you forgot. The other group members do not have backups.Reference answersA: Hey, guys, I made a terrible mistake. I hope you will excuse m

20、e.B: Whats wrong?A: I forgot to bring my laptop for the presentation!How to apologizeThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingB: Jesus! You promised that you would!A: Its all my fault. I was in such a hurry this morning.B: Have you made backups or something?A: No, it never occurred to me to do tha

21、t. Well, is there anything we can do at present?B: You have no time to return to your dorm to get it. The class begins in five minutes. Maybe we have to apologize to the teacher and tell her that we have to postpone it till the next class.How to apologizeThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingA:

22、 It seems that there is no other choice. I will explain it to the teacher. Its all my fault. I really feel bad about it.B: Maybe in the future we all need to be prepared for such an emergency. For example, each of us will have a copy of it and store it on our own memory sticks.A: You are right. We h

23、ave all learned a lesson from this.How to apologizeThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingSituation 2:You used your classmates USB device to copy a teachers courseware, but deleted a document in the device by mistake.Reference answersA: Hey, Li Ming, Im awful

24、ly sorry!B: What happened?A: Im afraid I accidentally deleted a your memory stick!B: Oh, no! Which file?Listening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingA: Er, the one on Biology 201. I hope its not some information that is valuable to you!B: Oh, Biology 201. No, no, never mind. Its not th

25、at important. I dont think Ill need that. If I do, I can copy it from my classmate.A: Oh, are you sure?B: Yes, dont worry about that. I wont need it for the course.A: Anyway, I apologize for my mistake. I will be more careful in the future.Listening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingS

26、ituation 3:You found that Mary was trying hard to make friends. On one occasion, you commented that Mary was trying to be “popular”. But when it finally reached Marys ears, it sounded like she was a girl who was always trying to attract others attention. She was really hurt.Listening and SpeakingHow

27、 to apologizeThinking and speakingReference answersA: Hi, Mary, may I have a word with you?B: Yes, sure.A: Shall we go outside? I want to talk to you alone. I hope you will excuse me. I owe you an apology.B: What for?A: I was talking with my friends about your popularity that day, and I said that yo

28、u really tried hard to be popular.B: Im afraid I dont know what you mean by “try hard to be popular”.Listening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingA: Well, I meant that you are quite an optimistic girl and want to make friends with more people.B: Isnt it what we all do, being nice to ot

29、hers and making more friends?A: Yes, but maybe people misunderstood me when I said that you sent gifts to people you dont know so well. They might take it as implying that you are giving them petty favors.B: Oh, I heard that. That was really hurtful. I couldnt believe you would say such words about

30、me!Listening and SpeakingHow to apologizeThinking and speakingA: I wish I could take them back. Is there anything I can do to make it up to you?B: Well, think no more about it. Next time, youd better talk to me before you make a judgment.A: Thank you for your patience with me. You are very understan

31、ding. I hope we can still be good friends.B: Thats all right. We all make mistakes.Listening and SpeakingTopic Two Making new friends1 Is it possible to forge an intimate friendship quickly? Listen to a talk and choose the best answer to each of the questions you hear.Making new friendsListening and

32、 understandingListening and Speaking1 Which is one of the reasons why it was so difficult for Ms. Madrigal to make new friends?2 Where did Ms. Madrigal meet Susan Hanover?3 When did Susan Hanover visit Ms. Madrigals house?4 What is the name of the experiment on making friends?5 What were the subject

33、s in the experiment supposed to do?6 Which of the following is the most personal question in the experiment?Making new friendsListening and understandingListening and SpeakingBAABDC2 Listen to the talk again and answer the questions. 1 How did Carla Madrigal feel when she found she had no friends in

34、 Seattle? 2 What activities did Ms. Madrigal attend in Seattle in order to meet people? 3 What did the woman Ms. Madrigal met in a store say to her? 4 What did Ms. Madrigal and the woman have in common? 5 What did Ms. Madrigal risk doing after she discovered their common interests?Making new friends

35、Listening and understandingListening and Speaking2 Listen to the talk again and answer the questions. 6 What is the purpose of the experiment on friendship? 7 According to Professor Arthur Aron who developed the protocol, how should we disclose personal information to establish intimacy? 8 What did

36、Ms. Madrigal and Ms. Hanover talk about in their house besides art and their creative projects?Making new friendsListening and understandingListening and Speaking1 How did Carla Madrigal feel when she found she had no friends in Seattle? She felt anonymous and it was a devastating feeling.2 What act

37、ivities did Ms. Madrigal attend in Seattle in order to meet people? She joined a gym and a community garden, took yoga classes and visited a teahouse.3 What did the woman Ms. Madrigal met in a store say to her? She complimented her hair.4 What did Ms. Madrigal and the woman have in common? They both

38、 liked to work with textiles and to write.Making new friendsListening and understandingListening and Speaking5 What did Ms. Madrigal risk doing after she discovered their common interests? She invited the woman to her house for coffee.6 What is the purpose of the experiment on friendship? To find ou

39、t whether it is possible to forge an intimate friendship quickly. 7 According to Professor Arthur Aron who developed the protocol, how should we disclose personal information to establish intimacy? In a slow and reciprocal way. If we disclose too much too fast, we put someone off.Making new friendsL

40、istening and understandingListening and Speaking8 What did Ms. Madrigal and Ms. Hanover talk about in their house besides art and their creative projects? Ms. Hanover hinted about a sad time in her own life and Ms. Madrigal shared a story about the end of her first marriage and how she had to rebuil

41、d her life afterward.Making new friendsListening and understandingListening and Speaking3 Work in groups and discuss the questions.1 If you are in a new city and have no friends there, will you start making new friends? If so, how? If no, why?Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and Spea

42、kingReference answers Yes. (main points: make friends with my workmates who I get along with; join a community or a club; have something in common; make friends with a total stranger; attend gatherings; make one or two acquaintances first; circulate in larger social groups; strike up conversations;

43、hang out, play ball games, visit places, go to a restaurant to try some special dishes; a slow process; make it happen, not just sit and wait)Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingReference answers No. (main points: a shy person; not easy for me; dont know what I can talk abou

44、t with someone whom I dont know very well; Would they like who I am; Would they be interested in what I say; if I invite someone out, but he or she refuses me, thats a very bad experience)Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and Speaking2 Would you disclose your intimate details to peopl

45、e to make an initial connection? Why or why not? (main points: disclose intimate details to a trustworthy friend; But if it is a stranger, I wont know what he or she may think of me. What will he or she do with my intimate details? They dont need to empathize with me, whether the details are about h

46、appy feelings or sad feelings; wont reveal intimate details to a stranger)Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and Speaking3 Do you find it easier to make new friends in real life or in the virtual world? Why? virtual world (main points: shy about meeting people; find it very difficult t

47、o initiate a talk; dont know what to say and how to keep the conversation going; virtual world is a great place to meet people who share my interests; In the real world, it is not so easy to find so many people with similar interests and passions; open up more possibilities; it has changed the way I

48、 interact and maintain friendship)Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and Speaking basically the same (main points: same requirement have something in common, want to maintain the relationship, be honest, helpful and tolerant; in real life, get to know somebody in study, at work, or in

49、neighborhood; makes me feel safer to know that the person has a certain true identity; makes the relationship stronger; in the virtual world, the information you get may be all fake; easier to have problems or break up)Making new friendsThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingTopic ThreeFamily re

50、lationship1) ran into2) reply3) watching for4) still5) barked at6) little heart broken7) harshlyFamily relationshipListening and understanding8) calm9) spoil10) knelt11) picked12) napkin13) whispered14) huggedListening and Speaking1 Listen to a poem on family relationship and fill in the blanks with

51、 what you hear.2 If you read the poem in Exercise 1 carefully, you will find rhyming words in the lines. Underline as many rhyming words as you can. Check your answers and read them aloud. Then work in pairs to compose a 3-5-line short poem of your own based on your descriptions of relationships in

52、the Warm-up exercise. Try to rhyme your poem.Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingReference answersI was shopping at the grocery store one day, and I ran into a stranger as he passed by.“Im so sorry!” was my reply.Then he said, “Excuse me too I wasnt even watching for you.”W

53、e were very polite, this stranger and I.Then we went on our separate ways after saying goodbye.But at home, a different story is told How we treat our loved ones, young and old.Later in the kitchen, as I cooked our meal,Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingMy little daughter

54、 crept up on me, very still.When I turned, I nearly knocked her down.“Get out of the way!” I barked at her with a frown.She sauntered away, I guess, with her little heart broken.However, I didnt even realize how harshly Id spoken.Late that night, as I lay awake in bed,Gods quiet voice spoke to me an

55、d said,“While dealing with a stranger, youre calm and polite.But with those you love, youre quick to excite Go look right now on the kitchen floor.Youll find some flowers there by the door.Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingThose are the flowers she brought for you.She pic

56、ked them herself pink, yellow, and blue.She stood there quietly, not to spoil your surprise,And you never saw the tears in her eyes.”By this time, I felt sad and small.And now my own tears had begun to fall.I quietly went into her room.She was already asleep.I knelt by her bed.“Wake up, sweetheart,

57、wake up,” I said.Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and Speaking“Are these the flowers you picked for me?”She smiled, “I found em, out by the tree.I wrapped em in a napkin, just for you.I knew youd like em, especially the blue.”I said, “Im so sorry that I missed them today And I shoul

58、dnt have fussed at you that way.”And she whispered, “Mommy, thats OK I still love you anyway.”I hugged her and said. “I love you too And I love my flowers, especially the blue.”Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingSample poemsOne doubt can start a hatingOne rumor can block /

59、 deafen our hearing.But one seed can start a gardenAnd flowers grow on the heart barren.Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingSample poemsA Red, Red Rose (abridged)Robert BurnsO, my luves like a red, red rose,Thats newly sprung in June;O, my luves like the melodie,Thats sweet

60、ly playd in tune.Family relationshipThinking and speakingListening and SpeakingSample poemsFirst Love (abridged)John ClareI neer was struck before that hourWith love so sudden and so sweet,Her face it bloomed like a sweet flowerAnd stole my heart away complete.Family relationshipThinking and speakin