1、塑造陽光心態的七種方法Harmony among people is a high realm of harmonious society. Dr. Wu Weikus research and put forward the sunny mentality theory, is to guide people to adjust their mentality, create contentment, gratitude, philosophical psychology, a joy, optimistic attitude towards life, through personal i

2、nner harmony is the key to promote social harmony.1, the mentality in the end have much power?A good mind, ability to increase, bad attitude, ability to weaken. Mentality has so much power that it affects you from the inside to the outside.Now some people believe that there is such confusion: their

3、wealth is increasing, but the satisfaction is on the decline; with more and more, but less and less happy; tool more and more communication, but in-depth exchanges less; more and more people know, but less sincere friend. Whats the problem? Theres a problem with the mentality. Mentality out of the q

4、uestion, it is necessary to adjust the mentality, a good mood in order to appreciate the good scenery. Create a healthy mind, shaping the contentment, gratitude, optimistic sunshine state of mind, is to make friends to establish positive values, healthy life, release the strong influence. If you are

5、 a fire in your heart, you can release the light and heat; if you are a piece of ice in your heart, it will melt or be zero. If you want to warm others, you must be hot; if you want to illuminate others, please first illuminate yourself; if you want to brighten yourself, you must first brighten your

6、 heart. How to light the heart? Lighting a heart lamp, shaping the sunshine mentality. A good mind can influence individuals, families, teams, organizations, and ultimately society.A good mind, ability to increase, bad attitude, ability to weaken. Mentality has so much power that it affects you from

7、 the inside to the outside.People have nine basic emotions: interest, pleasure, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, fear, contempt and shame. Interest and pleasure are positive, surprise is neutral, and the other six are negative. Because peoples negative emotions account for an overwhelming majority

8、, people unknowingly fall into bad moods. The purpose of shaping the sunshine mentality is to mobilize interest and pleasure these two good emotions, so that we are often in a positive mood among them. Because of the good mood will make you power up, make you joy, full of vitality, calm, calm, harmo

9、ny; bad mood will make you down, make you sad, pessimistic, disappointed, dispirited, even decadent. If you are in a bad mood, you get angry with others, and you dont want to cooperate with others, and your relationship will be tense. If a leaders mood is often bad, the bad emotions spread across th

10、e organization like a plague of sheep, causing tension in the group. We are now building a socialist harmonious society, sunshine mentality is a basis for building a harmonious society.2, shaping the sunshine mentality of the seven methodsA change of attitude, enjoy the process, live in the moment,

11、emotional independence, the Institute of Thanksgiving, heaven and hell created by the heart, when too much pressure to bend.So, how to shape the sunshine mentality? Here are seven ways to share with you.The first way: change your attitude.If you cant change things, change your attitude towards thing

12、s. A mans perception of events is worse than that of what happened. Things are not important in themselves, but what matters is what people think about things.There is a phrase called Misfortune may be an actual blessing.: in the Orient, a wise man, his horse was lost, the neighbor said: you really

13、unlucky. The wise man replied, good or bad, not yet. Soon the lost horse came back with a wild horse, and the neighbor said, you are too lucky to have one more horse. The wise man replied, good or bad, not yet. Before long, the wise mans son rode a wild horse, fell off his horse, broke his leg, and

14、the neighbor said, youre so unlucky, youre such a son, and your leg is broken. The wise man replied, good or bad, not yet. After a while, the emperor conscription, many young people were killed on the battlefield, the wise mans son because the leg broken, can not fight, did not be drafted, lucky to

15、survive. So, for a long time, anything is good or bad, not yet. A coin is a coin. Sometimes it can be positive. After two days it may be the reverse, and then it may turn over again. If everything is divided into two parts, people will become sensible and free and easy.Change attitude, often can pro

16、duce passion, with passion, there is the upward fight, the result will often change. There is a classic case of China is this: in ancient times there was a scholar and B two exam, I saw a coffin. A said: unfortunately, hit the coffin, the exam dead. B said: it seems the coffin, careerism, my luck, t

17、his is bound to go. When they answer the question, the efforts of the two are different, and the result is second. After coming home, they all say to their wife: that coffin is really clever!. This case shows that mentality can influence peoples ability, and ability can change peoples destiny. A goo

18、d mood at the moment is the foundation for a good days mood. If you promise to be in a good mood every day, youll get a very good quality of life and experience the wonderful life that other people cant experience.The second way: enjoy the process.Enjoy the process, wonderful every day. Life is a pr

19、ocess, not a result. If you dont enjoy the process, the result is what everyone knows. Life is a bracket, the left bracket is born, and the right bracket is death. What we have to do is to fill in parentheses, and strive to fill the brackets with wonderful life and good mood.A young man is disillusi

20、oned, what day do not sit lazily basking in the sun under the tree. A wise man asked him, young man, what a great time, why dont you make money? The young man said, its boring. Youll have to spend money when you make it. The wise man asks again, why dont you marry? The young man said, its boring. Yo

21、ull get a divorce if you cant make it. The wise man said, why dont you make friends? The young man said: no, friends will lose Former friends become enemies with each other. The wise man gave a rope to the young man and said, just hang yourself.,Anyway, I have to die, I might as well die now. I dont

22、 want to die, said the young man. The wise man then said, life is a process, not a result. Young people disillusioned, this is called a few words remind the dreamboat.How do you enjoy life? Focus your attention on the positive. Life is like travel, memory is like photography, attention decides choic

23、e, choice decides content. There are a, B, two people look at the scenery, at the beginning you see, I also see, two people are very happy. Later, a small smart play, go faster, see the scenery earlier than B. Otsuichi, look, how can I see you earlier than I do and go faster than armour?. So the two

24、 men walked faster and faster, and finally ran. The original is to see the scenery, and now become a race, and after a distance of the scenery along the way, two people did not see, and to the end, two people are very regret. This is the process of not enjoying life.The third way: live in the presen

25、t.The real meaning of living in the present moment comes from zen. Someone asked a Zen master, what is living in the present moment? The Zen master replied, eating is eating, sleeping is sleeping.I ask you now, what is the most important thing for you? Who is the most important person? What is the m

26、ost important time? Some people may say that the most important thing is to make a fortune, promotion, sales, Car Buying, the most important people are parents, spouse, children, the most important is the time of college entrance examination, graduation reply, wedding. I tell you, these are not the

27、most important thing is you do now, the most important person is the one youre with, the most important time is now, this view is called living in the moment.A man being chased by tigers, he ran hard, accidentally fell from the cliff, he caught the eye, a cane, the body hanging in the air. He looked

28、 up, and the tiger stared at him; he looked down, and the abyss was waiting for him; he looked into the middle and found a ripe strawberry by the side of the cane. Now, this man has three choices of going up, down, hanging in the air and eating strawberries. How does he choose? He chose to eat straw

29、berries. This is a Zen story, eat strawberries, this mentality is to live in the moment. The only strawberry you can grasp now is to eat it. Now connect to the past and the future. If you dont value the present, you will lose the future and you cant connect with the past. You can only grasp the pres

30、ent. If you blindly regret for the past, you will be depressed; if you blindly worry about things in the future, you will be restless; therefore, you should grasp now, seriously do something now, dont let the unhappy past and future concerns like bandits robbed you are happy.To live in the present i

31、s to make people happy and happy now. If you are unhappy now, you are not living in the present. Of course, living in the present does not mean having wine at the moment, but at the moment there is wine, not being drunk, not making the Ming Dynasty sad, guiding the future and living in the process.L

32、ive in the present moment, and learn to find the good things that happen to you,Believe that your life is unfolding in the best possible way. If you dont live in the present, you lose the present.There is a country girl to squeeze a pot of milk, put it on his head, and then began: this milk can make

33、 blind and disorderly conjectures that sell a few dollars, a few dollars can buy a few chickens, chickens can be a lot of egg, egg can be hatched chicks, chickens and under many of these egg egg, sell money enough to buy me a nice dress, I wear a skirt to the Palace dance, I dance to attract the pri

34、nce, the prince asked me to dance, I want some is reserved. When she thought about it, she tilted her head and the milk jug fell to the ground and broke. This is not living in the present, losing the present.The fourth approach is emotional independence.Emotional independence is not to rely on the s

35、ource of our happiness in other peoples behavior, we can grasp only ourselves.Once, Su Dongpo and Jackson but visited the temple, the temple of Avalokiteshvara found his hand with a rosary. Su Dongpo asked: people holding beads read Guanyin, Guanyin holding beads who read? Foyin answered: miss yin.

36、Su Dongpo asked again, why does Guanyin still read the goddess of mercy and read herself? But the answer is: qiurenburuqiuji. Therefore, if you want your inner state to be good, you must learn to be independent.Some people are always worried about the future and worried. Dont worry, if you worry abo

37、ut things that cant be around you, to go along with him. We can only consider things, can try to square the circle, by him. Taking the doctoral degree of economics and management of Tsinghua University, 50 talents admit one, and the competition is very fierce. Someone said: if I dont get much shame,

38、 what about my future? I told him: 48 people are the same as you can not test, you can grasp is to study hard, take the exam as an experience in life.The fifth way is to learn to be grateful.An enterprise mister told me that when he recruited college students, first of all they see filial piety, not

39、 filial piety parents, if they do not even honor their parents, will not be loyal to the enterprise. When recruiting, he will ask: what do you do during your summer vacation? Candidates answer: play, travel, rest. He asked again, do you often go home to the country? They say, often back. The boss th

40、en asked, what are you doing? They said: find a classmate to eat, chat, play together. The boss finally asked, what do you do at home? They said, sleep and watch TV. The boss is not satisfied with such applicants: why dont you mention your parents, you can help parents do some work, talk about some

41、university knowledge ah?. Learn to Thanksgiving, first of all to parents Thanksgiving, this is very important.There is Thanksgiving in the west, and everyone will thank others for help on that day. Many people send a text message to all the people who have helped, supported, and loved themselves, an

42、d thank them for their care. If you send a text message, someone will reply and send text messages to someone you need to thank for, which will lead to a chain reaction. You will have a good time at Thanksgiving, and your relationship will become more harmonious.Gratitude can make a person feel good

43、. The West has a motto: with love rather than hate incense to eat beef.Sixth ways: heaven and hell are created by the mind.Happiness is not essential to ones wealth, position, or authority. Happiness is determined by thoughts and attitudes. The mind can make heaven, or hell. A knight asked the old Z

44、en master, master, what is heaven? What is hell? The old Buddhist monk gave him a disdainful look and said, youre not worth talking to me about heaven. The warrior is enraged, whipped out a knife, the knife in the old monks neck, said: the bad old man, Ill kill you! This is hell, said the old Zen ma

45、ster calmly. The samurai understood that anger was hell. So he took the knife back. This is paradise, said the old Zen master calmly. Samurai understand, good mood is paradise.There is an interesting story: God leads one to hell, the man found in the hell have bony. They used a special spoon porridg

46、e, long spoon, spoon head is small, only one point also does not drink, and scoop out the porridge sprinkled on the ground. At last there was no porridge in the pail, and everyone complained and hated each other. God took the man into heaven, he found paradise all grow fat, smiling. They use the sam

47、e spoon, eat the same porridge, but they scoop out the porridge, feed others, you feed me, I feed you, and as a result, we all eat porridge.This shows that you should learn to treat people around you. Some people say: I have a lot of iron buddies, but they are in Xinjiang, far water does not underst

48、and, nearly thirsty ah. Some people regard colleagues in the office as rivals, and they are all wrong! The key moment is to give you timely help, or your colleagues, people around you. If you think of others as demons, you live in hell; if you think of others as angels, you live in paradise. If you

49、can turn someone into a devil, youre making hell; if you can turn someone into an angel, youre making heaven. How can we turn someone into an angel? Learn to appreciate, to appreciate, to give, and to forgive.Seventh kinds of methods: when too much pressure to bend.In one case, a couple in Canada ha

50、s a quarrel and is on the edge of divorce. So they decided to go out to travel and try to save their marriage. The two men came to a North and South Valley in Quebec. They were surprised to find that the east slope of the valley was covered with trees. But the west slope was dominated by cedar trees

51、. Why are the East and West slopes so different? Why does cedar only exist on the west slope? Later, two people found that the west slope snow, Dongpo snow small, cedar branches soft, more snow, branches will be bending down, snow fell down, the branches will be restored. Other tree branches will be

52、 stiff, the last snow breaking tree is dead. Two see, people in times of stress, but also to learn how to bend. The husband quickly reviewed to his wife: its all my fault. I didnt do the right thing.When the wife reviewed her husband, she immediately said, I havent done enough. So, the two reconcile

53、d.The knife is so sharp that it will be useless if it is broken at a touch. We might as well learn to China traditional culture of Taiji Killing with Kindness; learning to numismatics, velvet glove. Sure, its hard, but we have to work hard.3, the main connotation of sunshine mentalityCan not change

54、the environment, adapt to the environment, can not change other people will change themselves, can not change things, change the attitude of things, can not be compared on the downward comparison.So, what is the main connotation of the sunshine mentality? There are four aspects:First, the environmen

55、t can not be changed to adapt to the environment. A man of practice to move mountains, after years of hard work, move, the results made a half day work found in the mountain did not move. He complained to his master, I cant move the mountain. Master said to him: the mountain can not move, you go to

56、the other side of the mountain, not on it?.Second, do not change others, change yourself. Some even want to change the habits of a 80 year old, and a 80 year old has developed a fixed habit that is unlikely to change. If there are old people in your family, you should try to adjust to them. A young

57、man was brought up by his grandmother. He brought grandma into the house. His daughter-in-law was determined to do his duty and not let the old lady do a little work. The old lady has done the housework for a lifetime, must do, the daughter-in-law is not to do, the result has caused the contradictio

58、n unexpectedly. After listening to my class, the young man was very happy. He said it was designed for his family. He immediately called his daughter-in-law to change, and then his family became much more harmonious.Third, do not change things, change the attitude of things. In reality, people often feel hurt by other peoples language. In fact, in many cases, its not someone elses language that hurts you, its your own thinking that hurts you. If someone says, youre not a real thing