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Loveistoleratinghisshortcomingsinthesamewayyouenjoyhismerits.Love

ishavingahappysensewhenIbearhardshipsforhim.

?Douzi(areader)toChang

loveisastory,whichistoldbytheheartsoftwobelovedpersons.

?131xxxx0930

Ifyousaymyeyesarebeautiful,thatisbecausetheyarelookingatyou.

Thingswillbefine

WHENIgotmarried,Iwasstilljustagirlinside.Atthattime,Ibelievedevery

singlewordoffairytales,agirlwhowaswaitingforaknighttocomeandmake

herlifecomplete.MymarriedlifewasinsharpcontrasttowhatIimagined.

Tobehonest,thefirstmonthofmarriagewasterrible.First,myparents-in-law

movedinwithus,andthenmysister-in-lawalsocamefromCanadatovisitus,

withher4-year-oldson.SuddenlyIwassurroundedbyagroupofstrangers.

Everyday,Itriedmybesttopleasethemandtoadjustmyselftomynewrole

aswife,daughter,sisterandaunt.IfIhadbeenmoreoutgoing,thingswould

havebeenbetter.ButIwashopelesslyshy!NomatterhowhardItried,Ifound

ithardtogetalongwiththewholefamily.Whentheywerelaughingand

gossipingaboutoldfriends,allIcoulddowassitthereuncomfortablywitha

politesmileonmyface.Itriedtoincludemyselfintheirconversations,butIgot

worriedandnervousaboutwhatIsaid.

Iwassomiserable.Ihopedforsomehelpandsupport.TheonlypersonIcould

turntowasmyhusband.Buthewassodistantandusuallycamehomeverylate.

Onenight,afteranotherlong,painfulwaitingperiod,hefinallyshowedup.I

askedwhyhewascominghomesolate,butheonlyansweredimpatientlythat

heneededsometimetorelax.Frustratedbybeingrejected,Iblurtedout:'*I

madeabigmistakeinmarryingyou!**Therewasanawkward,painfulsilence.

"Asyouwish,“hefinallysaid,stormingoutofthebedroom.Mywholeworld

seemedtohavebeenshaltered,anddisconnectedbythosesimplewords.I

couldn*tbelievewewerestillonourhoneymoon.

AngrytearspouredoutofmyeyesandIrushedbacktomyparents'place.My

motheraskedwhatwaswrongandIcriedandtoldherthewholestory.Tomy

surprise,shesaid:'fYounglady,thistimeyouwenttoofar.”

"Whydidyousaythat?*'Ireplied,"Ididnothingwrong!*'

HReally?'*shesaid,*'Thetruthisthemanyouchosetomarryhaschanged,and

ashiswifeyoudidn'tevenknowthereason.n

"HowcouldIknow?"Iasked,defendingmyself,"Hedidn'teventalktome."

"Perhapsyou'vegivenhimtoomuchpressure,'*shepressedon,"Marriageisnot

likeafairytale.Sometimesyouhavetogiveinalittleandcopewithhisneeds.

Don'tjustthinkaboutyourselfallthetime.',

Irealizedthattherewassometruthinmymother'swords.Inthosedays,Ihad

focusedalotonmyownproblems.PerhapsIhadoverlookedsomething

important.ThenIheardmymothergooninhergentle,firmvoice:"Neversay

youwanttobreakupunlessyoureallymeanit,becauseithurts."

ThatnightIreturnedhomeandhadaheart-to-hearttalkwithmyhusband.I

finallydugoutthetruth.Myhusband'scareerwasonedge.Becauseofhispride,

andalsobecausehedidn'twanttoupsetme,hechosetokeepittohimself.

"Youdon'tunderstand,"hesaidembarrassed,"Tmaman,andIshouldgiveyou

acomfortablelife,but..."Ilookedatmyhusband,surprisedtofindthathishair

hadgrownabitthin.Iwentuptohimandwehuggedeachother:MThat'sOK,

everythingwillbefine,'*Isaid.

ByXieMengying,Sichuan

Don'tdoitoutofkindness

DearLizi,

I'veledaquietlifesinceenteringuniversity.Butaweekago,IreceivedanSMS

fromagirlwhoexpressedherloveformebackinhighschool.Iwasshockedto

hearfromher,becausewehadn'tbeenintouchformorethanayear!Thefirst

time,IturnedherdownbecauseIwasbusypreparingforthecollegeentrance

exam.Butitseemsshereallycan'tforgetmeandwantstobemygirlfriend.I

don'tknowwhattodo.WecontacteachotheralotthesedaysandImissherif

Idon'thearfromher.ButI'mafraidmyfeelingsareonlyareactiontoher

behaviourtowardsme.Thethingis,Idon'tevenknowherverywell.ButIdon't

wanttohurtherfeelingsagain.WhatshouldIdo?

Zane

Iusedtothinkthereweretwotypesofpeopleinthisworld.Thefirstwasalways

strugglingtomakethingshappen.Andthesecondneverhadtodoanything

becausethingsjusthappenedtohimorher.NowIknowIwaswrong.Life

throwsthingsatallofus.Thedifferenceisthatsomepeopletakethechancein

frontofthem.Andothersfailtoseetheirchancebecausethey'retoobusytrying

forperfection.Whichtypedoyouwanttobe,Zane?Whynotstopworryingand

givethisbraveSMSsenderachance?You'llonlyfindoutwhatyoureallyfeelif

yougettoknowherandgivetherelationshiptimetogrow.Anddon'tdoitout

ofpityorkindnessforher—doitforyourself,doitbecauseyouwanttogivelife

achance.Lizi

Stopjustdoingnothing

DearLizi,

I'mashygirlandIdon'tknowhowtogetalongwithmyboyfriend.We've

knowneachotherforfiveyears.Inhighschool,hehelpedmewithmylessons

andcomfortedmewhenIwassad.Nowwe'reatdifferentcolleges.During

militarytraining,hetoldmehelovedme,andIacceptedhislove.Butweonly

meetonceinalongwhile-mostofthetime,weonlykeepintouchbyphone.

Whenwedomeet,wejusttalk.Henevertouchesme?hefsnevereventaken

myhand.

Idon'tknowhowtobewithhimlikeotherlovers.MaybeI'mtoointroverted.

Canyouhelp?

AReader

Areyoufrustratedwithyourrelationshiporfrustratedwithyourself?Beingshy

isnotagoodhabit.Butit*seasytobreak.Allyouhavetodoisstopdoing

nothing.Haveyoueverwonderedwhyhenevertouchesyou?Isitperhaps

becauseyounevertouchhim?Whynottryit?Trypushingyourrelationship

forwardjustthatlittletinybit.Youmaybeamazedbywhathappensnext.You

maytriggerthe"snowballeffect1'.Yousee,doll,beinginvolvedwithapersonis

justthesameasbeinginvolvedinlife.Ifyoudon'tgive,you'llneverget

anythingback.

Lizi

Who,beingloved,ispoor?

?OscarWilde

Nothingcanmaintainlovelongerthanamutualunderstanding.

?Richard(Areader)

Youcanchoosethepersonwhomyoulove,butyoucannotchoosetheperson

wholovesyou.

?139xxxx5285

Noneedforyoutogiveup

DearLizi,

I'mafreshman.IwasinfectedwithHepatitisBwhenIwasjusttwoyearsold.

Ihaveagirlfriendandwehaveagoodrelationship.ButIdon*tthinkI'lleverbe

abletogetridofthisvirus,despitetheeffortsofmedicalscience.Shesaysit's

OK,butbeforeshewasvaccinatedayearago,Icouldn'tevenkissher.Ireally

loveherandwanttodoeverythingforher,butwhenitcomestomyillness,I

oftenfeelfrustratedandhopeless.Woulditbewisetogiveupmyloveandbe

singleforever?

Zorro

Well,Zorro,lookslikeyou*veovercomeatleasttwobigproblems.First,you've

acceptedyourstatusasaHepBcarrier.Andsecond,you'vefoundsomeone

whodoesn'tcareaboutyourdiseaseandonlycaresaboutyou.Wow!You're

doingsowell,whydoyoustillfeelhopeless?You'llprobablycarrythevirusyour

wholelife.Butthatdoesn*tmeanyoushouldgiveup.You'regoingtohavetobe

carefulaboutyourhealth,butifyourgirlfriendhasalreadybeenvaccinated,

sheshouldbeprettysafe.Don'ttakemywordforitthough.Takeyourgirlwith

youtoaHepBexpertsoyoucanbothlearnmoreaboutthefacts.Thengeton

withyourlifelikeanormalperson.

Lizi

Stopcontrollingthings

DearLizi,

I'masophomore.ImadefriendswithahighschoolstudentovertheInternet

lastyear.Hewasdepressedbyhisstudiesthen.SoI'vebeenwritingtohim,

encouraginghim,andhe'smadebigprogress.He'lltakethecollegeentrance

examthisJune.Butnowhesayshe'sdecidedtoapplyformycollegebecauseof

me.HeissostubbornthatIhaven'tbeenabletopersuadehimtogiveupthis

idea.Mycollegeisn*tagoodchoiceandIdon'twanthimtoregrethisdecision

lateron.WhatshouldIdototalkhimoutofit?Alice

Ohdear,nottheInternetagain!AllInternetrelationshipsaredreams.Without

realcontact,youhavenocontrol,andtheguyontheothersideofthecomputer

isfreetodreamupwhateverfeelingsheneeds.Anditsoundslikehe'svery

needy.Needypeoplearedangerous.Ifyoudon'twanttobeused,you'dbetter

keepyouremotionaldistance.Isuggestyoustopcontactinghimsooften.He's

surroundedbyhisownlife.Ifyoustopremindinghimofyourpresence,

thoughtsofyouandwhateveryoumeantohimwilldimveryquickly.But

perhapsyouneedhisneediness.Perhapshelpinghimhasmadeyoufeelneeded.

That'sanicefeeling,isn'tit?But,basicallyitisselfishandcontrolling.Youknow

whathereallyneeds,sogiveittohim,bylettinghimgo.

Lizi

Dividedlove

Editor'snote:OurUKcorrespondenthassentusthisstoryofaninterraciallove

affair,basedonhisexclusiveinterview.

STEVEmetGillianwhentheywerebothinhighschool.Itwasthefirstproper

relationshipforbothofthem.Peopleneverexpectedittolast.Itwasjustahigh

schoolromanceafterall.Buttheirrelationshiplastedthroughuniversity.

Bythetimetheywereintheirmid-20s,GillianwasmakingitcleartoStevethat

shewantedtogetmarriedandstartafamily.Oneday,heinvitedhertogofor

adriveinthecountryside.Whentheyreachedthecoast,theygotoutandwent

forawalkalongthebeach.Themoodwasset,thetimewasright.Steve

reachedintohisjacketpocketandpulledoutaring:"Willyoumarryme?"

Gillian'seyeslitupandshethrewherarmsaroundhimandcriedout"yes”！

Everythingwassetforafairytalefutureandtheydidlivehappilyeverafter.End

ofstory.Well,notquite.Therewasonebigproblem:StevewasChineseand

GillianwasaWesterner.

AlthoughStevegrewupintheUK,hisparents—likesomanyotherChinese

parents—expectedhimtomarryaniceChinesegirl.Hismumhadbeen

unhappywiththisrelationshipwithagweilou(Cantoneseforforeigner)from

thestart.ThefirsttimeStevetoldhismumhewasdatingaScottishgirlat

school,sherefusedtotalktohimforaweek.Steveworriedthatthewomanhe

lovedandthewomanwhohadbroughthimupcouldnotgeton.

But,allhewantedtodowastomarryhischildhoodsweetheartinabig

ceremony.Tohim,therewasnopointindoinganythingelse?shewastheonly

girlhewantedtobewith.

Butthatonlyservedtomakemattersworse.Steve'sparentswanteda

traditionalChineseweddingwithabanquetinaChineserestaurant.Gillian's

familywanteditinherchurch.

Intheend,followingtheWesterntraditionofthebride'sparentspayingforthe

wedding,Steve'sparentsdidnotreallyhaveasayinanything.Theweddingwas

heldinGillian'schurchandmostofSteve'sfamilyandfriendsdidnotattend.

Stevedideverythinghecouldofcourse,tosmooththingsbetweenhisparents

andhisnewwife.Hespenteverymealtimehecould,trainingGilliantouse

chopsticksandtocookChinesefood.HetaughtherafewwordsofCantonese

inthehopeofmakinghisparentshappy.

SteveandGillianhavebeenmarriedformorethanthreeyearsnow.And

nothinghaschanged.Everytimehisparentscometovisit,theystilldon'tlike

hismarriagetoa''foreigner*'.Stevewondersifhisparentswilleveracceptand

lovehiswife.

Theysayloveconquersall.But,SteveandGillianandmanyotherinterracial

couplesintheUKarestillwaitingforlovetobringdowntheculturalbarrier.

ByAaronPan

Happiestdays

ITwasarainydayandhelentmehisumbrellaafterschool.Afterthat,Icould

notstopthinkingofhim.

Hewashandsomeandfashionable.Wewereinthesameclassandsometimes

satnexttoeachother.ItookeverychanceIcouldgettotalkwithhim,buthe

wasnotatalkativepersonatall.Oneday,Igothisphonenumber.Iremember

clearly,itwasthedaybeforeNationalDay,2003andIborrowedhiscellphone

tosendatextmessagetomysister.ThatwashowIgotit.

Thenextday,Isenthimamessage.Hedidn'tseemtoknowitwasme.Wanting

tomakethingsmoreinteresting,ItoldhimIwasmysister.Thatdidinfact

becomeinteresting.Overthenextfewdays,itseemedthathelikedtalkingwith

her.

Westartedsendingmessagestoeachother,talkingabouteverything.Italked

aboutmyself.Thoseweresomeofthehappiestdaysofmylife,eventhoughwe

justtalkedbySMS.

Then,oneday,Ithoughtitwastimetotellhimthetruth,thatitwasnotmy

sisterandthatIwasinlovewithhim.Tomysurprise,hewasnotsurprisedatall!

Hetoldmethathehadalreadythoughtofthatafewdaysbefore.Iaskedhim

ifhelovedme,andwaitedanxiouslyforananswer.

"Goodgirl!Iloveyou."WhenIheardthesewords,IwassoexcitedIwantedto

hughimatonce.But,IwasinanothercityforNationalDayholiday.

Thatseven-dayholidaywassolong.Itwasveryhardformetowaittilltheend.

Hetoldmethathehadarrangedeverythingforme.AllIcoulddowaswaitfor

themomentwhenhewouldbeatthestationtomeetme.Thetwo-hourtripby

trainseemedliketwoyears.Butfinally,Isawhimcomingtomewiththe

sweetestsmile.

Thenwespentahappynightwitheachotherandhisclosefriends.Weenjoyed

anicedinner,thensangsongsanddrankbeerinaKTVroom.Iwasthehappiest

girlintheworldlisteningtohimsinglovesongsforme.

But,overthenextfewdays,everythingchanged.Therewasnosmileonhisface,

andhedidn*ttalktomemuch.Therewerenomorecallsandnomoretext

messages.And,Ifoundhisformergirlfriend'spictureinhiswallet!Iaskedhim

why,buthejusttoldmenottotouchhiswallet.

Icriedandfinallycalledhimoutforawalkonenight.Hetoldmehewasnotthe

rightpersonforme,andthatthetwoofuswouldneverhaveanyfuture

together.Ifellfromthetopoftheworldtothebottom.Ihadn*ttheleastideaof

whathadreallyhappened.

Almosttwoyearshavepassed,butIcan*tgethimoutofmyheart.Westillkeep

intouchwitheachotherbutIknowfromthelookinhiseyesthatI'mjusta

formerclassmate.Ihavethoughtaboutaskinghimtocomebacktome,butI'm

afraidofbeinghurtagain.

EverytimeImisshim,Ijusttalktohiminmyheart:"Iloveyou,butthathas

nothingtodowithyou.”

Takeheradvice:forgether

DearLizi,

"Breakup".Itwasmygirlfriend'sideaandithappenedamonthago.Noearly

warning,noreason-shejustwantedit.ButIdon'tunderstand:Wewerehappy.

Afterthebreak-up,wecontactedeachothereveryday,andshesaidshestill

missedme.ButIdon'tknowwhatthatmeans.Nowshe'ssentmeamessage:

*'forgetmeandlookforanothergirlfriend".Thesewordsmademeveryangry,

andPvedecidednottocontactherforalongtime.WhatdoyouthinkIshould

do?

ChangGong

Thereisn'tmuchyoucando,Gong.Apartfromtakeheradviceandforgether.

Otherwisethingsmightstartgettingrathermessy,andwhoneedsthat?Ifshe

decidedtoleaveyou,theremusthavebeensomethingwrongwiththe

relationship.Right?Shewasdecisiveenoughtomakethebreak-butnowshe

isn'tbraveenoughtosticktoit.Shesaysshemissesyou,butit'snotthereal

youshemisses,it'sonlyherideaofyou.You'relettingherconfusionbecomea

noosearoundyourneck.Thatwillonlybringyoulongingandbitterness.Ifyou

wanttoexplorethesepains,thenkeeppursuingher.Butintheend,you're

goingtohavetoleavesuchpainsbehindandacceptyourfateingenerous

fashion.Thenyou'llbeabletoletgoofthebrokentiesthatbindyouandfall

headfirstintoyourfreedom.

Lizi

Loveisaflowerseedthatwemustwatereverydaysoitwillblossomintothe

mostbeautifulflower.

?ByLiXia(areader)

Eachofusisanangelwithjustonewing.Weembraceeachothertobecome

completeandflyuphigh.

?ByVitamin(areader

Shestolemyheart

ITwasTuesdaynightandwehadastudysessioninthegymnasiumasusual.It

wasrainingheavilyoutsideafterthemeeting.FortunatelyIhadanumbrella

withme.SoIofferedtogowithEyretoherworkplace.Wewerebothsoaked

throughafterarriving.

Itwasamessinheroffice.Therewereplentyoftasksthatneededtobedone

andthecomputerwasoutoforder.Butasluckwouldhaveit,IhadmyMP3

playerwithme.Sowelistenedtomusicinsteadandturnedtoitforcomfort.I

couldseeshewasnothappythatnight.

Welistenedtothesong"Whowouldyoumisswhenyouarelonely".Allofa

sudden,sheputherheadonmyshoulder.Atthatmomentmyheartbeganto

beatquickly.Icomfortedherandtoldhertofinishtheworktomorrow.

Whilespeakingtoher,Icouldnothelpholdingherhand.Foramomentwe

staredintoeachotherseyes.Howromantic!Itwaslikealovestoryinafilm.I

kissedher.Shefeltalittleembarrassedinthebeginningbutdidnotrefuse.

Thenwekissedeachother.Itwasmyfirstkiss,andIfeltthemostwonderful

thinginmylife.However,thehappinesswasveryshort.Thenextday,Ifelt

veryexcitedthewholemorningwhenIthoughtofwhathappenedtheprevious

night.Inordertobeanicemanandtosurpriseher,Iboughtsomeorangesthat

sheliked.

IphonedherwhenIarrivedoutsideherdorm.Amomentlater,shecamedown

lookingverysad.Thefirstwordsshecameoutwithwere:"I'msorry*'.Thenshe

explainedthatshealreadyhadaboyfriend.Shewasoutofcontrolthatnight

becauseofsadnessandonlywantedsomecomfortfromafriend.Ineverasked

herwhethershehadaboyfriendornot,soshedidn'tmentionitthen.Shedidn't

wantmyoranges.Shewantedmetoforgetwhathadhappenedthatnightand

saidweshouldjustbegoodfriends.

Iwasfightingtokeepmytearsback.MyheartbecamecoldandInodded

withoutsayingasinglewordthenturnedandleft.Icouldnotcontrolmyself

anymoreandcriedthebitteresttearsinmylifewhenshewasoutofsight.

Thatnightwithouthavingdinner,Ilayonmybedlisteningtomusicwith

darknessaroundme.IwishedI'dneverbeenborn.IwishedI'dnevercometo

thiscollegeandmether.Icouldn'tforgetherbecauseIlovedhersodeeply.But

IhadtoforgetherbecauseIdidn'twanttodestroyherhappiness.IfeltasifI

wasdying.

Nowtwomonthshavepassed.Ikeepdreamingabouthereverynight.Each

nightwhenIgotobed,IfeellikesendingamessagetoherbutIdon'thavethe

courage.WhatIwishnowisthattimewillwashawaythememory.Idon't

expectshewilllovemeorcometomeoneday,Ionlywanttoforgetmystrong

feelingsforher,littlebylittle,daybyday.

Butstill,itseemsthatthereisnothingthatcanmakemehappyandactiveagain.

Shenotonlytookmyfirstkissawaybutalsomyheart

Ifyoudon'twantto,thendon'tdoit

DearLizi,

I'masophomore.Afewdaysago,myclassmateLilycametomeforsome

advice.Ididn*tknowwhattosay,soI'mwritingtoyou.Lilyhasbeenwithher

boyfriendfortwoyears,andsheloveshimverymuch.Butnowherboyfriend

wantstohavesexwithher.Lilyhasrefused.Butshedoesn'tknowwhattodo.

She'sstillavirginandnotyetreadyforsex.Butshethinksthatifshekeepson

refusingherboyfriend,itmighthurttheirrelationship.Anyadvice?

Karen

Ifshedoesn*twanttodoit,sheshouldn'tdoit.Sure,sexisniceanditbrings

youclosertoyourpartner,butit*sjustsex!Ifyou'reayoungsterjuststarting

outonyoursexualjourney,thereareafewthingsyoushouldknowtokeepyou

outoftrouble(forexample,useacondomandbesureyoutrustyourpartner).

Beyondthat,it*salluptoyou.Noonebutyoudecides.Modernsociety(andfilm)

hascompletelychangedthissimpleactofbeingclose.It'smadeitinto

somethingreallydramatic.Can'twebemoresensibleaboutit?IfLily*snot

ready,it'snobigdeal.Herboyfriendshouldbeabletoacceptthis.Meanwhile,

theyshouldalsoseriouslyconsidersuchthingsastraditionalmoralvaluesand

iftheyarereadytotaketheresponsibility.

Lizi

Forgetaboutit,andifsnotthatevil

DearLizi,

IlikeagirlcalledKilthverymuch.She'smybestfriendandwerespecteach

otheralot.SometimesImasturbate.Ithinkmasturbatingisnormal.Butonce

whileIwasmasturbating,IstartedthinkingofKilth.Ievenimaginedhavingsex

withher.Howterrible!Sincethen,wheneverIseeKilth,Igetreallynervousand

feellikeI'vedonesomethingvery,veryeviltoher.HowcanIgetridofthis

strangefeeling?Wheredoesthisfeelingcomefrom?Pleasehelp!

MikeLee

Idon'tgetit.Don'tallboysthinkabouthavingsexwhilethey'reflyingtheirlittle

airplanes?Isn*tthatwhatyou'resupposedtodo?Sowhyareyousoupset,

Mikeyboy?AndwhydoyouthinkhavingsexwithKilth,oreventhinkingabout

it,isevil?There*snothingevilaboutit—sexisnormal,justlikemasturbation.

WhatIthinkyouhavetodoisworkoutyourfeelingsforKilth.She*syourbest

friend.Doyouwantmorefromher?Ifyoudo,you'regoingtohavetostart

talkingtoheraboutlove.Butifyouwanttokeepherasafriend,youmighthave

togetyourselfapropergirlfriend.Whenyou'vedonethat,youshouldn'tneedto

crashyouryoghurttrucksomuchanymore!

Loveiscomposedofasinglesoulinhabitingtwobodies.?137xxxx7554

Lovecanbesaidwithoutspeaking;lovecanbeheardwithoutlistening.?

WendyG(Areader)

Loveisabalmywindthatsoothespainandanxietyinthetempestsoflife.?

ZhangJie(Areader)

Itconquersgreatdistances

ShenZhihua,ofNanjingUniversityofTechnology,willgotoAustraliafor

furtherstudyinJuly.HisgirlfriendwillstayinNanjing.Shenthinksoverseas

studywon'tharmtheirloveatall.

I'llmissthenightsattheNanjingEnglishcornerwhereImettheprettygirl.

ItwasMarchandthemoonwasout.

Therewasasweetsmellintheair.Mybookandpencilswerelyingonthe

ground,neglected,asItalkedwiththegirlattentively.

Ifellinlovewithheratfirstsight.HernamewasMiaoQiandherimagewas

burnedintomymemoryassoonaswebegantotalk.Duringthetwohours

atEnglishcorner,MiaoQiandIchattedaboutstudies,exams,andthe

future.

Thosetwohourschangedmylifeforever.Thenlovecameonlyfourmoths

beforemydepartureforMelbourneUniversity.IneverimaginedIwould

meetthegirlofmydreamsthatnightinthatplace.

Wegrewclosertoeachotherinthefollowingmonthsafterthatfirstmeeting.

EverydayIsentmessagestoher.Ialsocalledhertohearhersweetvoice.

SheenjoyedtheattentionthatIgaveher.HerbrighteyessparkledasI

calledher,eventhoughshewasalittlebitshyandwasreserved.

BothofuslikeclimbingandeverySundaymorning,ZijinMountainwasour

destination.Weenjoyedthefreshairandthequietofthewoods.Attheend

ofastonepath,weclearlyknewthattherewaslove.

Handsinhand,andeyesgazinglonginglyateachother,Ifeltmyhoneysay

Hlloveyou”eventhoughshedidn'treallysayanythingatthatmoment.Can

eyesspeak?Canheartsappreciate?Absolutely!Icouldfeellovewithmy

heart.

Nextmonth,onJuly14,I'llleaveforMelbourneUniversityinAustralia.I'll

bethereoneyear.ButIknowthisisthestart,nottheend,ofourlove.That

nightattheEnglishcornerandthewoodsonZijinMountainwillbeinmy

mindforever.

Thoughtherewillbeagreatdistancebetweenus,westillunderstandand

supporteachotherbecauseweloveeachotherdeeply.

Itisalovethatcanconquerdistance.Wegrewwiththelove,andwelearned

totakecareofeachotherandtakeresponsibility.Now,thatlovewillteach

usthathappinessneedspatienceandwaiting.

It'safeelingthatwilllastforever

GaoLinghuiisnowapostgraduateatOceanUniversityofChina.Different

choicescausedherandherlovetosaygoodbye.

Themessagejumpedontomymobilescreen,saying:"1wishyouahappy

day.*'Ismiledandsentmybestwishesbacktohim.Themessagetookme

backtowhenwewerestillatcollege.

Imethimbychanceduringmyfirstyearatcollege.Afterthatfirstmeeting,

weoftenmet.Hewashandsome,humorousandconsiderat